Monday, October 15, 2012

Book Review - She's Got Issues

Anyone near me might have heard me talking to myself as I read She's Got Issues: Seriously Good News for Stressed-Out, Secretly Scared Control Freaks Like Us by Nicole Unice.  There was so much in there that I could relate to in this book. I have dealt with and sometimes I still deal with control, insecurity, comparison, fear, anger and unforgiveness.  

Here are some quotes that I had to write down in my journal:

"The ability to see yourself clearly is crucial in your relationship with Christ and in your subsequent ability to serve well."

"To follow Jesus is to agree to change.  That's the cost required of us."

"What if we began to think of our insecurities not as shameful places to hide but as opportunities to see God working in our lives?"

"There's nothing like comparison to keep us distracted from our own gifts." 

The author gave a great visual on the need for taking a mental space bar.  She showed us words without any space.  The words lost their meaning without a space between words.   In the same way, our life needs to have space so it can make sense. Our lives can lose its meaning without taking a pause.  At the end of each chapter, she has a space bar moment for us to reflect on what we read with a prayer, a journal exercise and group discussion questions. 

I was reminded of a few things as I read this book.  I should  put my anchor in God and not in temporary things like my appearance or achievements.  At all costs, I need to avoid the comparison trap because it hinders my life with Christ.   If I compare myself to others then I am not content with what God has given me.  I will start to resent my life.  Anger is a powerful emotion and I need to handle it carefully to avoid harming others with my words or actions.  I have much to "chew" on and prayerfully consider what to do now.

This is a good read for any woman. If you combine it with the DVD group experience you can grow with other women to find your strength in Christ.

The book and DVD was given to me for free from the Tyndale Blog Network.  All opinions expressed are my own.

Sunday, October 14, 2012

DVD Review - She's Got Issues DVD Group Experience

Nicole Unice created a wonderful, warm group experience based on her book She’s Got Issues.  The book and the DVD discuss issues that most women would rather keep a secret.  The cover says it all.  There is a woman with her finger to her lips as if she is saying “’s a secret.”  The issues discussed are things women do not want to talk about.  It is easier to not acknowledge our problems and work around them rather than inviting God in and other women to help us face them.

There are 6 sessions about control, insecurity, comparison, fear, anger and unforgiveness. Each session starts with one woman’s personal experience, a time for us to write in our journal and a group of women and Nicole talking about a particular issue.

The group experience sounds great, but I want to facilitate my own personal experience with God and me about the issues I have first.  I will prayerfully consider facilitating this group experience.    I appreciate the advice that Nicole gave to group leaders.  She wants any leader to create a place of safety.  Since these issues are so personal, she suggests that the atmosphere we create is one where everyone can feel grace.  All the women should be able to speak freely without the other women trying to fix each other.   

I would recommend this DVD for any group of women that want to get together and allow God’s Word to help them understand their issues and grow to a more healthier you in Christ.

The book and DVD was given to me for free from the Tyndale Blog Network.  All opinions expressed are my own.